A Year of Inspired Living by Kelly Martinsen

Author:Kelly Martinsen
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: essays;self-help;journaling;self-reflection;Kelly Martinsen;guided;living;inspired;year
Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
Published: 2017-11-02T04:00:00+00:00

JULY

Jump for joy

Uplift others

Love yourself

You got this.

Judgmental

Those who spend their time

looking for faults in others usually make

no time to correct their own.

—Art Jonak

Judgmental: a negative word to describe someone who often rushes to judgment without reason. The adjective “judgmental” describes someone who forms lots of opinions—usually harsh or critical ones—about lots of people. Judgmental types are not open-minded or easygoing.

Mean People SUCK!

I received my first nasty reader phone message a few years back. It was quite a shock because the feedback I had been getting since becoming publisher of Natural Awakenings Long Island had always been wonderful. Readers had sent me emails, left voicemails, and posted Facebook messages saying how much they enjoyed the magazine. The message—which, honestly, is a cowardly way to confront someone—went something like this, “I don’t believe in all this quackery (referring to advertisers in my magazine for yoga and meditation studios). He continued, “These centers are teaching communism.” He went on (and on, and on) elaborating, and, in doing so, he eventually admitted he was “unsure what any of the advertisers actually do,” thereby confessing that he was spewing opinions not based on any knowledge or fact.

He also complained that the advertisers “just want to make money,” which I thought was funny because of course they do. Isn’t that the reason we love America—or at least one of the reasons—because as a capitalist society we all have the ability to earn a fair living? Based on his tone, he should have been all for this concept. Isn’t it actually a beautiful thing when our financial goals are tied into the betterment and health of our fellow man? Yet, this gentleman judged and spewed negativity on a subject he knew nothing about, and did it with an embarrassing amount of authority.

Humans judge—often harshly. It isn’t enough that we judge, we then spew that judgmental negativity with absolute authority. I don’t care how evolved you are, you know we all do it. Just one look at Facebook and you see strong opinions on subjects people know little or nothing about.

I am not innocent, I do it, too. It’s . . . well, like I said, human. I am not sure how to stop judging people; I haven’t figured that out yet. But it is very easy to stop verbalizing that judgment. Yup, it’s simple. Just shut up! (LOL H) not really, but sort of yeah, really. Simply pause before you speak. Determine if what you are saying is positive or uplifting to someone or, heck, consider if it is even factual. Trust me, I don’t always do this myself. If you are at my daughter’s lacrosse game or my son’s wrestling match, you may have heard me saying to a friend, “What is wrong with that referee?” (or that mom or that coach). Yes, I am judging. I want to stop judging, it’s annoying, even to me (ain’t nobody got time for that!). I am also positive our judging others verbally annoys the people around us.

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